This week Frankie Tortora and Steve Folland have a chat in response to a question from Detective Rene Dukes aka Anonymous. ‘S/he’ says:

“Hello Frankie & Steve,

You’ve had an episode for freelancers starting a family, now here’s a question about throwing another child into the mix (not literally throwing of course).

I remember speaking to a friend of mine a while ago just after their second baby was born. I naively asked them “so I guess the second one must be easier right?” and they replied “yes, sort of, but the problem is now there’s two of them”.

My partner and I are thinking about having another child. Our daughter is three years old, and goes to nursery three days a week. Aside from that, my other half and I juggle childcare between us and our respective work (my other half is employed, I am self-employed).

We do want to (are going to) have another child, and NOTHING you could say could convince us otherwise (although, please don’t test that). But I am feeling a bit worried that our precarious juggle of work, family life, and grown-up relationship will become even more precarious and complicated once we willingly welcome another kid into our lives.

In short, I feel as clueless as I did before our first child was born — please tell me it’ll all be ok???”